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The Santa Delusion – The Reason Of The Season: Day 23

I love Santa!!

Flashback to 1988, I was in third grade. I sat down at the kitchen table to tell  my mom, “I know Santa isn’t real,” to which she replied, “Don’t tell your brothers,” and that… was that.

From what I can remember, I never told my brothers how terribly smart I was for figuring this out. Partly because I feared the consequences and partly because I still wanted to believe the magic.

As I got into my teens (Christmas Eve when I was 13 was awful – Hello becoming a woman! :( ) the magic of Christmastime was waning and I just wanted to sleep in on Christmas morning. I missed the time when I was waiting to be happily duped, to be shown the magic trick, to believe in something greater than humans.

Well, the time of being a child didn’t repeat itself. Shocking, I know.

At 19, I had my son. When his first Christmas rolled around, the question of celebrating the myth of Santa didn’t even come up. Living with my parents, a young single mom, I didn’t have the authority to make those kind of decisions. I was too fearful and inexperienced to even begin to contradict what my parents wanted/believed. It had never been a house full of critical thinking or encouragement of individual opinions. So, without skipping a beat, the Santa myth was passed down.

I didn’t mind too much.

Since then, I’ve grown to love Santa even more. Weird, I know. Obviously I don’t believe there is an actual person who flies around the earth delivering gifts. (But if there is, he has forgotten our house every damn year.)

Are we lying to our kids when we perpetuate the myth of Santa being an actual being? Yes

Does it bother me? Yes… and no.

To me, the myth of Santa represents a feeling. The character of Santa embodies the warm, fuzzy feelings I get about this time of year. This year especially. I’ve had my share of trials and tribulations, but this year, I am able to get gifts for my kiddos that I don’t normally have the funds to even think about buying. I even sent out a tall stack of Christmas cards this year. And the best – we were able to get toys for charity. It has been a grand year! And to me, it feels magical – the sparkly feeling in my stomach is my magic.

Giving and the looks on others faces when opening gifts is inspiring and makes me feel like Santa. We are all Santa. I believe, if I had to do it all over again, I may not lie to my kids about Santa being a real being, but I think we would still love the magic that comes with “playing pretend” for a month every year.

My son no longer believes in the myth that Santa is one man flying around the earth. My daughter seems to pretend he’s real, but insists she believes. I don’t tell my son to not tell her, in fact, I encourage them to discuss it and bring to the table why they each believe what they believe. Their conversations are typical sibling discourse, as they are kids, but I’m glad they are using their critical thinking skills to try to determine what it is they believe and why.

In the end, I believe in Santa as the fictional character that embodies the sparkly tummy feeling we get when we give to others. I collect Santas, and each year, my kiddos gift me a new one. In our house, sparkly tummies and critical minds aren’t mutually exclusive. Giving to others is as magical as forming your own opinion… to me.

 

 

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The Reason Of The Season is a new series that will take place from December 1 – December 25. I, like many non-theists and non-Christians, love the holiday season. I love taking the this chilly time of year to remind the people I love how much I love and adore them, to help and give to those less fortunate, and feel the innocent hope of when I was a child. This series is an effort to educate many on tradition and history as well as an opportunity to share why I love this time of year and the traditions we use and have created in our family.

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More Xtian Love – The Reason Of The Season: Day 20

Of course there are good people who are also theists.

Of course there are bad people who are also theists.

Of course there are bad people who use religion to get other people who are theists to do bad things.

There is a mis-defined word out there. You know it, I know it… we all know it.

Christian.

This word is not synonymous with good. Christian does not equal Good.

Got it.

When a person is describing the character of person to get me to like them, or allow them to watch my children, or get me to patronize their business, using the word Christian, doesn’t mean anything to me in regards to whether or not they are good people.

I repeat:

Christian does not equal Good.

Need evidence? I thought you might. Even though you don’t need any for the existence of a supernatural deity you certainly do require evidence and factual information to back up everything else. Weird.

Here is some lovely new evidence to feast your eyes on. Last week, author Christopher Hitchens died of esophageal cancer at the age of 62. Atheists on Twitter decided to use the hash tag “#GodIsNotGreat” to express their grief and sorrow. The tag comes from the title of the book Hitchens is most known for authoring, God Is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything. Many Christians failed to realize this and instead tweeted death threats to atheists. More here too!

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Don’t let me down now… I expect the usual comebacks, such as:

“Obviously, those aren’t TRUE Christians!”

“Well, that atheist, Hitchens, was name-calling first!”

“Since the news didn’t cover it, this is probably all made up. Did you find this on The Onion?”

I’ve heard all of these. So many contradictions, so little time for giggling. With all of the time they spend spreading only love, it is surprising to me how much time they have left over to judge others… even their own. Again, weird.

During this joyful holiday time, remember:

Don’t piss off the peaceful people who are celebrating the birth of their mythological savior or they might cut a bitch.

Merry Christmas, Bitches!

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The Reason Of The Season is a new series that will take place from December 1 – December 25. I, like many non-theists and non-Christians, love the holiday season. I love taking the this chilly time of year to remind the people I love how much I love and adore them, to help and give to those less fortunate, and feel the innocent hope of when I was a child. This series is an effort to educate many on tradition and history as well as an opportunity to share why I love this time of year and the traditions we use and have created in our family.

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Winter Solstice – The Reason Of The Season: Day 21

The winter solstice, which marks the beginning of winter and the shortest day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere, comes tonight at 12:30 a.m. EST.

The Earth, turning on its axis as it circles the sun, is tilted at an angle of 23.5 degrees relative to its orbit.

Tonight is the night that the axis, as seen from the north, points as directly away from the sun as it will all year. So Chicago, for instance, will get just 9.1 hours of daylight tomorrow, Atlanta and Los Angeles will get 9.9 hours (closer to the equator) and everything north of the Arctic Circle will experience 24 hours of darkness.

As “armistice” is defined as a staying of the action of arms, “solstice” is a staying of the sun’s apparent motion over the latitudes of the Earth. At the summer solstice, the sun stops its northward motion and begins heading south. At the winter solstice, it turns north.

Ancient skywatchers had no understanding of this movement of the sun. They thought this celestial machinery might break down someday, and the sun would continue southward, never to return. As such, the lowering of the sun was cause for fear and wonder.

When the ancients saw the sun stop and slowly climb to a higher midday location, people rejoiced; here was a promise that spring would return. Most cultures had winter solstice celebrations and some “adapted” it to other events.

In Persia, the solstice marked the birthday of Mithra, the Sun King. In ancient times, Dec. 25 was the date of the lavish Roman festival of Saturnalia, a sort of bacchanalian thanksgiving. Saturnalia was celebrated around the time of the winter solstice. And in 275 A.D., the Roman Emperor, Aurelian, commemorated a feast day coinciding with the winter solstice: Die Natalis Invicti Solis (“The Birthday of the Unconquered Sun”).

So…

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The Reason Of The Season is a new series that will take place from December 1 – December 25. I, like many non-theists and non-Christians, love the holiday season. I love taking the this chilly time of year to remind the people I love how much I love and adore them, to help and give to those less fortunate, and feel the innocent hope of when I was a child. This series is an effort to educate many on tradition and history as well as an opportunity to share why I love this time of year and the traditions we use and have created in our family.

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Love Makes A Family – The Reason Of The Season: Day 22

For me, the holiday season is a special time with my family. With the cold and the shorter days, the evenings which we spend watching movies, drinking hot cocoa, and laughing brings warmth and light to an otherwise depressing season.

My family isn’t “traditional”. I’m divorced. And my two kiddos have two different biological dads, neither of which is my current husband.

My son’s father passed away a few years ago. But we ensure Gavyn continues to build a close relationship with his bio dad’s family. My ex-husband, David, is the bio dad of my beautiful daughter and the dad that has raised my son since he was 2. My ex-husband and I have always maintained a working parental relationship. We have ALWAYS understood that they are more important than anything else and we have made it work in a remarkable fashion. My ex-husband and current husband get along very well. We are even over to my ex-husband’s parents house for all of the holidays. Every other Christmas, we switch which house we all stay for Christmas Eve/Morning. Yes… David will spend the night at my house and Brian and I at his… because we all want to be there for our annual Christmas traditions, to see the kids faces on Christmas morning… because each moment is so special and we all understand how important it is to be there for it all.

It may seem odd to some. But we don’t care. Showing our kids that we love them so much that we worked through everything personal to get to a level where we can appreciate the other for their parental abilities and acknowledge that, although we aren’t married, we are still a whole family, is better than most of the stories I hear about divorced couples.

Yet, in our way, we are a family. A whole family. Not a broken one. Our kids have 2 homes, yes. But with parents who communicate, laugh, work together, and get along, having two homes just means having more stuff :)

I wish everyone could have family and marriage equality. I’ve asked Santa and I hope he brings it this year. I could never fathom why a 2000 year old book had such grand authority on the concept of modern marriage or why “all loving” actually comes with a lot of “exceptions” attached. Lastly, I grew up in a “traditional family” and it was not what I would call particularly loving. Love has nothing to do with the bible, religion, or antiquated traditions.

Have a heart bigger than god and realize love comes in many forms – not just your brand.

Happy Holidays To Family Love!

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The Reason Of The Season is a new series that will take place from December 1 – December 25. I, like many non-theists and non-Christians, love the holiday season. I love taking the this chilly time of year to remind the people I love how much I love and adore them, to help and give to those less fortunate, and feel the innocent hope of when I was a child. This series is an effort to educate many on tradition and history as well as an opportunity to share why I love this time of year and the traditions we use and have created in our family.

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Christmas Spirit – The Reason Of The Season: Day 19

I am often saddened, yet  not surprised, by the lack of good spirits during this season. Yes, I’m atheist but I still love December and the holiday and festivities. For years I was unable to purchase much for my kids and family, but I have worked my tail off and finally, this year, I am able to give more than normal – and it makes me so delightfully happy. But there are moments when my happiness is marred by the stinky attitude I have to come into contact with during this month.

Last week, I took my kids shopping – at a mall – I never go to malls – not a fan. But, they saved their own money (they work once a month at gymnastics meets) and they had lists and a budget set for shopping this year.

#ProudMama

We had a great time! We stopped for a quick bite at the food court’s Subway. It was wretched. My 10 yo daughter even mentioned that the girl must hate her job. The only thing she said to us was, “What you want?” and, “What you want on it?” It was just…. not nice.

Oh well. We all have bad days.

What saddens me the most is the people who claim to be forgiving, non-judgmental, and loving… and proving the opposite.

For instance:

Ah, yes… this is called being non-judgmental.

 

Who says Christian don’t fight in the name of their god?

 

Personal fave – I’m a good Christian and I forgive you, but I will make you hurt.

Merry Hypocrisy To All!

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The Reason Of The Season is a new series that will take place from December 1 – December 25. I, like many non-theists and non-Christians, love the holiday season. I love taking the this chilly time of year to remind the people I love how much I love and adore them, to help and give to those less fortunate, and feel the innocent hope of when I was a child. This series is an effort to educate many on tradition and history as well as an opportunity to share why I love this time of year and the traditions we use and have created in our family.

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Hitchens Is Gone – The Reason Of The Season: Day 16

Christopher Hitchens, you will be missed.

After a long battle with esophageal cancer, Christopher Hitchens, one of the Four Horseman, died last night at the age of 62.

His work and influence will live on through those of us courageous enough to speak openly about the detrimental effect religion has had on the world since it’s invention. Hitchens was honest, brutally honest. He didn’t even like Christmas… or any religious celebration. And although I celebrate Christmas, albeit totally void of any Jebus stuff, this doesn’t sway my awe and respect for the man.

He was brilliant. And intelligent. And challenging.

Great minds challenge, small minds follow blindly. He, most certainly, was the former.

My friend, Troy, would like to designate December 15 as Hitchmas from now on…

Read his final Vanity Fair piece.

 

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The Reason Of The Season is a new series that will take place from December 1 – December 25. I, like many non-theists and non-Christians, love the holiday season. I love taking the this chilly time of year to remind the people I love how much I love and adore them, to help and give to those less fortunate, and feel the innocent hope of when I was a child. This series is an effort to educate many on tradition and history as well as an opportunity to share why I love this time of year and the traditions we use and have created in our family.

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To Xmas And Beyond! The Reason Of The Season: 13

Thinking Atheist, I <3 you.

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The Reason Of The Season is a new series that will take place from December 1 – December 25. I, like many non-theists and non-Christians, love the holiday season. I love taking the this chilly time of year to remind the people I love how much I love and adore them, to help and give to those less fortunate, and feel the innocent hope of when I was a child. This series is an effort to educate many on tradition and history as well as an opportunity to share why I love this time of year and the traditions we use and have created in our family.

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